Fortunately, this election was not your only opportunity to participate in self-government. As part of Arlington's Participation, Leadership, and Civic Engagement (PLACE) initiative, Arlington has established an online forum OpenArlington for engaging with Arlington County government. The first question is, "What would make it easier for you and others to engage with Arlington County Government?" You can look at others' response, and contribute your own.
You can also participate in self-government by eating vegetables rather than cupcakes.